I don't really have any useful advice being new to this forum but I wanted to tell you that I have been through the affair thing and the 37 rules do work. It helps the affair person get their head out of the clouds. Once you are off their radar and living your own life and not crying and blubbering over them, once they realize what they stand to lose, they come back around, at least that's what happened for me.

I just wish the results had been permanent for me. 12 years later... here I am... posting on this forum.. *sigh*

Me: 56
H: 60
M: 32 yrs
Not separated, I am seriously thinking of leaving
Sons: 3, all grown