Seperated and she is with someone - I'm desperate

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vdubber It is very hard to detach when you love someone so much you are willing to look past their flaws and see something there even if it's to your own detriment. Love is blind as they say.

Don't be ashamed you never thought she might endanger the kids, you've been hurting so much you probably couldn't think of anything logically. Just be thankful that you have opened your eyes now and are going to take the steps necessary to keep the kids safe. Put the kids first, and her second.

Have you thought about Al-Anon meetings? I went to AA meetings for children of alcoholics when my H left me and I was so full of pain. It helped me a lot. Maybe you should try a few meetings and see if they help? There's different ones. Some for alcoholics and some for family of alcoholics. Oh and there's a book out there that helped me so much -

Peace to you Vdubber.