Hey S, you can ask the attorney about sitting down with your h. See what he says. Or you can decide to face that fear with a new mindset. Like:
H: Still want a divorce S: Ok. I hear that. It isnt what I want(or wanted) but I know we need to move forward. H: (looks at you incredulously) S: So, we need to decide how we are going to approach this. I would like to do it in a way that allows us to be proactive and fair. H: (still looking at you with surprise) Um, ok then. S: What were you thinking in terms of how you want to approach it on your end?
Well, you get the picture. LOL!
Anyway, see what the lawyer says about it. If you do meet him, dont give away anything you dont have to.
Questions about your job are good.
Also, what about retirement funds? Medical? Cars alimony - how long? child support? debt? splitting of assests? decisions about childcare/child's education/visitation/custody college fund for daughter how will incedentals/extras for daughter be split? (Cant remember if you are in your own home) Need to ask about that if you are...do you have to sell? life insurance You can have the support garnished which I think would be a good choice for you.
I will think about it some more and come back to write them if I think of anything else.
You may want to speak with your doc about some meds to get you through if you feel you really need them. I took them when it got to be too much and I am glad I did. It was a hard decision, but I dont regret it. Personal decision, though.
