WAW Dating - Oh noes!!..

[LoveMyW]

Hey LoveMW

You have to push those thoughts out of your mind because it means you are not concentrating on you.

In my opinion she would have to be some sort of sociopath for it not to play on her mind or at least think about it. You already answered your own question really a few posts up when you said she was questioning you. I know they seem like they don't care and moving on etc but I just don't buy it. Its all part of the fog. You have to remember that they checked out a long time ago. For us this is all still fresh.

Forget about her and OM. Its fantasy land.
Concentrate on you and the kids.

Move on for you and whatever the outcome you'll be a better person.

I fully understand as i'm also going through this.

Hi SRD.. Don't worry, my focus is on myself and my kids.. I'm agreeing that the fog is starting to lift ever so slightly..

TBH, I Really don't care about her and OM's interactions.. It was more journaling/thoughts..

We are all here for the same reasons!!.. I will check out your sitch fully later..

Hi LMW, just re the signs, I find it best not to mind read. Its really hard not to but they could take you down the wrong road. As one of the vets said a long time ago, its the actions of the WAS not what they say.

Just to give you some examples of my W this week alone,

She has started calling me sweetheart again, she has texted me that our M was far from bad and it was mostly good. She has arranged a new deal with Sky for the house, telling the engineer that she needed to speak to her husband re details. She has texted me aleast twice everyday this week, including last nite when she stays in the house !!! and she will call me on the phone most days. This morning there was a ring on her wedding finger, which is huge for my D's as they asked her 4 weeks ago to put them back on and W told them she was now wearing them on her other hand and would not change.

Thats just in the last 5 days. If I mind read I would be getting her PJs ready for her !!! LOL

At the same time alot of people on here have very strained realtionships with the WAS so I wouldn't ignore the signs but actions speak louder !!!!

On the WAS seeming happy, I can tell you that I was convinced that my W was more than happy with her choice even though she was clearly unhappy about leaving kids and three weeks ago she called me and told me that she was very unhappy with her new life and was crying most days because she has lost everything.
Your W is second guessing everything you say and do.

Keep strong and as we all tell each other, it's a long road. Your M didn't fail overnight so it can't be repaired over night either. Take care RD

Thanks for the input RD.. No mindreading going on!!.. As I replied to SRD, just journaling/thinking.. It's the first thought I've had like that about W in a few weeks now, and it feels good!!..

That seems like some changes in your sitch.. Keep up the good work!!..

I agree with my W second guessing.. I think I've finally found the right combination of "do what works"!!.. For now anyway!!..