Thank you iffy. I just found this site yesterday and i did look at the 37 steps and can admit there are several i am not and have not been doing. I'm not good with change and wish I could just get angry and let go. I will keep reading, learning and trying to follow those steps, and listening and trying to follow the input and guidance of those of you that have been through similar situations.

I appreciate your input.

M: 44 W: 45
Married 26
Together 28
D: 22, S: 18, S: 9, D: 7
S: 12/2013, seperate houses
OM revealed first 10/2013, stopped seeing him
OM revealed 1/2015, been going on for quite some time