The truth is the letter was more for me. I needed my own closure. Funny thing is he may not have got it. I didn't realize I was in my other email acct. it's prob sitting in his junk mail.
My ex would not have got soul custody on his own. He was granted it because the judge thought I was a good maternal role model and we had a two parent home.
I was at every L appt. , therapist for SD appts, . Ex asked for my help with bringing up SD. I was at her first day of school, her first sleep over at his house.
He cried about the unfairness of his lack of time with his D and fought for more. He was good with her up until we got her full time. He said things would be better once we got her because he would be less stressed. I was patient waiting and waiting for him to have more time for us.
Once we had SD. He withdrew and checked out from me and her. I got frustrated pretty quick. Especially as I was having to Be the primary parent.
SD was seeing a therapist to help with the transition from her Mums to our house. She too saw a switch go off in my ex. She told him he owed it to me and SD to figure things out. That if we split it would cause a huge setback for SD. SD was so upset when we split she didn't go to school for two days. She told her Therapist that I was taking care of her and she didn't want me to go. The therapist was about to suggest sharing custody again with bio mom. She said I was the emotional buffet as ex H was not emotionally engaging. With me not in the home this changed things.
Next he brought his Ap into the home and Bio Mom died. He brought his AP to the funeral to the horror of everyone. His sister sat with me. SD had me move out Mom die and a strange woman move in all within six mths.
SD is going through the same things I was at home. Constantly waiting for him to have time for her. He was great with me at first and great with her but it doesn't last.his AP left too because he was no longer spending time with her.
Now he's seeing yet a new woman. Leaving SD alone. SD is angry now. He was too busy with work before to spend time with her but now he had time to go see his new GF. She said other kids go home to a family. It's dark when she walks to the school bus and he doesn't walk her. She's going to either leave to live with her Grandma is a year or get herself in trouble.
SD was hopeful we would reconcile after ExH made efforts to get closer to me. It wasn't just me that was lead on. The three of us had been spending time together going for dinners, watching movies.
I would like to throttle Ex. H.
I know that there is something not right with him. It just breaks my heart that his D has had to deal with all these changes.
Me 52 H 44 T9 M 5 BD 12/11 H split 8/12 OW moved in 12/12 OW gone for good 6/14 We get closer again 9/14 SD 13 Me 4 Grown
Accept what is...let go of what was and have faith in what will be.
