Seperated and she is with someone - I'm desperate

[Ahoy]

vdubber -- first of all, if she is picking up your kids after going to the bar, you have to realize that she might be endangering your kids. Also, having an overnight male guest while your kids are there with her is a big no-no. The courts would agree on both counts. Want her respect? Quit begging and start standing up for yourself. Consult a lawyer. Then tip off a police officer that she might be driving drunk to pick up kids on a certain day/time. This sounds cruel, but you HAVE TO PROTECT YOUR KIDS. PLEASE. That is more important than anything else. More important than saving your marriage, I promise you. Taking legal steps is likely the only thing that will wake her up at this point. But do you really want to be with someone who would do this to you? You may not be able to answer that now , but I promise that in time you will be able to ask yourself this and you will feel differently than you do now.