Originally Posted By: dwnnoto
Hello everyone, so today was the scheduled time for my W to come by and see the dogs and pack for her school trip. I was outside putting things in the bike to leave. I see her pull around the corner and she stops because she sees me. I see her, and she backs up and leaves. We have not been separated but a week. It did not end on bad terms and this A was not about me neglecting her or her neglecting me for an extended period of time.

I was gone 10 months she found friend OM and that turn into I might love friend OM. So why is she treating me like I did something totally wrong. I sent her a text that said "wow I did not know you were that angry with me." instantly realized that was a mistake and followed it up with "next time do not show up early please." not sure I recovered but it was something.

I am hurt and angered by her reaction to not even look at or see me. What is that all about. I left in such a hurry I left my ID. Had to go back and get it. While I waited for her to answer the door. I saw her get up off the couch and wipe her eyes. I did not even go inside my own house. I said I left my Id she asked where I told her she got it. I said thanks and left. Did I just take a giant step back?


Hey bro. A lot of times when they cheat on you they will hate you so they don't hate themselves. It's normally not intentional, but the human mind does it as a way to protect itself. She will validate her choices and in by doing so invalidate you.

That's why you can't really talk to them and shouldn't try to appease them.

You can let them go on and discover they made a bad decision or not.

I tell you, we had one guy on this board who was being cheated over a period of time and he got tired of being alone, so he got a girlfriend.

The WAS was livid, at how could he do something so despicable. It was a huge double standard. But it got her to see how "dirty" the thing she was doing was, and it wasn't as exciting or interesting once her LBS was doing the same thing.

They are now talking, relationship not fully mended, but it got her mind to open up...