Strong EA after 2yrs M - trying to detach. #3

[Complex]

Starsky.
Thanks for your opinion. I'm actually not gaining new Intel since I stopped snooping. My W is smart and she isn't directly lying to me, she's just not talking about things and of course never told me that she actually was planning on making OM commit to her and make him her new boyfriend. But it seems like OM didn't want that, either for personal reasons or because she is still officially married.
So now she said "I don't want to tell parents yet, I'm not ready". Whatever that may mean. I can only assume things, which doesn't help me right now.

I could gather more information if I get the chance, but that would crush the trust she is building in me right now.
The extra information I have is wearing on me a lot tho and I should rather focus on myself. But the change of dynamics I think would hurt right now. I KNOW it's still an EA, although I know she would want more, and I worked hard on DBing and gained some respect back and I'm absolutely not sure if a confrontation would help or destroy that respect.