Gogofo - LRT letter - planning a new beginning

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What I would have hoped to achieve with the letter was that the W would understand I see where my issues are and that I see her perspective. I would also hope that she would not go through with the D, but instead want to work on us. HA! Wishful thinking I know.

Vets will correct me if I'm wrong but outside of MC the only thing that's going to get through in any way (if anything can) is your behaviour and actions and even then its not guaranteed. Thats why 180s should be to change you for the better to redirect from destructive or toxic behaviours for you, the kids and anyone who will be important to you in the future. W may pick up on them but have no expectations of that for your own sanity.

Not trying to be harsh, just recognise so much of what I was thinking and doing and I remember the pain it caused me. I will suggest the impossible, try to relax a little. There are a lot of good things in your sitch but stop trying to accelerate and fix others.

I had many a 2x4 on that. I know, I so know that the "mr fixit" wants to explain, take ownership and explain a plan to correct all the issues and get things running smoothly. Unfortunately in my case at least w isnt broken and in need of repair, the r was in fact flatlined and is no more (e.g. she walked out with no intention of returning). May be possible for us to start a new one and save the marriage itself, that remains to be seen.

Congrats on getting going with the house, new space even if its old space redecorated does help, I know that from experience. Just be careful on changing everything about yourself too quickly

Hang on in there but relax a little.