Im sorry you are in such an uncertain state about the pay out. Its horrible. I lent my H €17.000,- in Dec 2013 and he s starting to stall his payments. His bonus turned out €950,- instead of €1400,- so i got €650,- instead of €1000,-. No asking permission nothing. Its very unnerving and feels very unfair. Can relate. The only thing I think you can do is get the divorce proceedings started and request the judge pay out must be made before its finalized...?
I think the respons to your email text was good advice. It was formulated a bit harsh, but i agree with the basics. I think you tr generally much more together and db-smart. Maybe thats with the tough live :-) Everyone has an off day...
Again I commend your support of your SD. However i dont think scolding your ex-H will work. i mean you ve seen it doesnt work. So its not helping you or your SD. He just doesnt want to hear it. You will become the enemy if you continue, its opposite to what DB advizes. Though its natural you want to help your SD who is hurting. But...it doesnt work... And HE and he alone will suffer the consequences of his actions. And all you can do is be there for SD. You can not prevent her pain. Unfortunately.
In very happy to hear your D has come through her cancer so well. Its a joy to see your kids happy. You are strong and have your own life and lucky enough to be able to enjoy motherhood, the best experience in the workd. Move on. Divorce. Do a 180 but for you! It is now up to him to change. Maybe the 180 will hrlp or the divorce. Maybe not. But be happy!!!! Big big hug
Me: 36 Him: 36 DD: 3y DD2: 1.5mo Together: 5y Married: > 3y D: April 1st '15 after 1y of affairs
