I do not plan to give her the letter. After writing it and reading it I see how bad it looks. The language, except the middle section with all the "I" in it, was directly from my DB coach. The list was supposed to be the the faults I see within myself, but I think I missed the point of this part of the letter completely.
What I would have hoped to achieve with the letter was that the W would understand I see where my issues are and that I see her perspective. I would also hope that she would not go through with the D, but instead want to work on us. HA! Wishful thinking I know.
The "please do not respond to this letter" was part of the script given to me by my DB Coach. She said ONLY give her the letter if I truly believe all of it.
I wrote the letter as an exercise to bend my mind into her perspective.
Thanks for the 2x4s.
As far as actions go, I am submitting an offer on a house. The speed at which I am making the decision and offer on the house is really out of character for me.
The old me would have had to think and think and think about it and then re-examine the whole situation and decision, and back around again. All talking and thinking and no action. This time I am dropping the hammer and just doing it. Big 180 for me. Part of it is because I feel backed into a corner, but another part of it is because I want to do it this way. I could move back into my parents, etc. but I want to provide a good house for me and my kids.
It is bitter sweet because it feels like taking this step is also getting me closer to D.
Got loan info on Monday night, looked at house and got a prequal letter on Wednesday, submit offer on Thursday. This is super speed for me.
M:34 XW:34 Together: 10y Living: 9y Married: 7y Son:6 Son:4 Separated: 12/28/13 Piecing: 5/2/14 Separated 2nd: 10/16/14 W filed, but pulled it: 11/5/14 papers served: 1/27/15 D final: 3/6/15
