Part 10 - Contents may prove volatile

[Sotto]

Hi Edz, wise advice from Jim as usual, and that may well be the best policy for right now. Try and 'park' the thing in your mind as much as you can. Much like I have done with the fact that my H feels our R is over, but hasn't told me, but has told friends.

To my mind, until or unless he and I have contact to confirm 'it's over,' 'it isn't over.' KWIM? But I agree, it's always pretty raw when we receive this unwelcome information that seemingly takes our sitch further from reconciliation. And so often in these sitches, our WAS isn't honest and open with us and we receive it third hand - double hurt. However we do have to remember that the fat lady hasn't sung yet.

I think you've done well not to let it impact greatly on your interactions with your W, and you may just want to carry on that track for now. If I'm in doubt with H, I do nothing for a bit, withdraw a bit, and process until I feel on more solid ground.

I've been working this morning, but have a headache. Notice I had one last week after yoga too. I'm not sure if everything is loosening up, or if I'm all tense in class and trying too hard. Not how yoga's supposed to work really is it?