Hi edz, sorry your having a bit of a difficult time at the moment.

I've been trying to think if there's a way I can help you talk through the thing without having to go into detail or making it too obvious....

Remember she may be confused about a lot of things so even if things are what you think they may not be what you think. (Yes that does make sense honestly)

Using an example, let's say a friend if your wife sees the profile your well meaning mate set up - now she may tell W about it who then assumes it's yours and confirms it by looking herself. Because she doesn't speak to you about it she doesn't know that you had nothing to do with it.

So with the thing is there an equivalent narrative?

I like your interactions with your wife, I think they are good (especially compared to mine) so I'd keep doing what your doing and try and put the thing to one side (a bit like I have to with regard to OM)


Both mid 30s, 2 young kids
BD 7sep14
XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1
D paperwork in progress