Feeling lost

[Ahoy]

I would leave his family out of it (per Sandi's rules). He wants a taste of freedom? Fine. Give it to him. Take the kids and go, see a lawyer, and make a life for yourself. Or stay in the house, but start going out in the evenings and let him take over the home responsibilities. Tell him: You know, now that you'd mention it, I'd like to have some fun too, so I'll be out tonight. Then don't tell him where you're going and be sure to come home late. Let him wonder. It's stupid to play games at this point, but sometimes that's the only thing that wakes them up.