Hi LMW, just re the signs, I find it best not to mind read. Its really hard not to but they could take you down the wrong road. As one of the vets said a long time ago, its the actions of the WAS not what they say.
Just to give you some examples of my W this week alone,
She has started calling me sweetheart again, she has texted me that our M was far from bad and it was mostly good. She has arranged a new deal with Sky for the house, telling the engineer that she needed to speak to her husband re details. She has texted me aleast twice everyday this week, including last nite when she stays in the house !!! and she will call me on the phone most days. This morning there was a ring on her wedding finger, which is huge for my D's as they asked her 4 weeks ago to put them back on and W told them she was now wearing them on her other hand and would not change.
Thats just in the last 5 days. If I mind read I would be getting her PJs ready for her !!! LOL
At the same time alot of people on here have very strained realtionships with the WAS so I wouldn't ignore the signs but actions speak louder !!!!
On the WAS seeming happy, I can tell you that I was convinced that my W was more than happy with her choice even though she was clearly unhappy about leaving kids and three weeks ago she called me and told me that she was very unhappy with her new life and was crying most days because she has lost everything. Your W is second guessing everything you say and do.
Keep strong and as we all tell each other, it's a long road. Your M didn't fail overnight so it can't be repaired over night either. Take care RD
