I feel your pain. I'm in the same boat except i'm having to leave as I cant afford to stay in our house on my own. As hard as it is you have to accept your marriage as you know it is over. The pain is unbearable I know. The woman you thought you knew left a long time ago. I find it amazing how they all do the same thing. Focus on you and your amazing kids. Although it doesn't feel like it at the time WAW are hurting to unless they are some sort of sociopath. For me I truly believe I broke my wife's heart a long time ago. Our connection started to fail 3 years ago and all I knew was how to blow up and blame. I threatened divorce and splitting because I didn't know what else to say to try and get her attention. This was before I knew about DB Since that moment on she was never the same. She just checked out and moved on. By the time we realise this its too late and they're usually involved with someone else. They all believe that is where their happiness lies. "Life is too short I have to be happy for me now blah blah". Think rationally. We know that isn't true. When the fairy tale ends and they are in a proper relationship with someone else the gloss soon wears off. They don't see that though because they just want their next fix. I have wrote this story on another post somewhere but my best friend got D from his wife a few years back. Same thing. Their connection failed and they didn't deal with it. She met her old flame from school online before you know it she has checked out and they get divorced. 2 kids involved. Now I knew at the time the were hasty to get divorced. She married the AP quickly and my mate, 1st hubby is with someone else with another child. His 1st wife recently told me that she longs for the day that her and 1st hubby can be back together. We were at a 'do' and the way she was looking at him was uncomfortable in front of her new husband. She still loves him. 1st hubby also admits he doesn't want to be with the person he is with. Its a mess and could have been resolved. The grass isn't greener. Its just they are wearing glasses that make it look so. We all wonder if the grass is greener when we're not happy with what we've got. its human nature. There is nothing I can do to change my wife. I have to accept that. I am moving on and will be great again no matter what with our D8. One day my wife will wake up and think wtf have I done. will it be too late? who knows. I'm not hanging around though anymore to try and fix something that cant be fixed the way it is. I need to get my own life back I'm sure your doing well whatever has happened.
Me:40 W:35 D:8 T:13 M:10 WAW: 7/14 PA Discovered: 1/15 at least 6 months Moved out and moved on
