The only relevant thing I can tell you at this point is that sitches easily last a year or two. Your focus on every single day is keeping you from seeing the big picture. Your W has checked out of the M and whether or not this OM is in the picture, the main problem is her love and attraction for you. That's why you need to work on yourself. It will benefit you, regardless of the outcome. You need to learn patience and accept that things will get worse before they get better. You're just at the very beginning.
M39 D6 D3 (at S) S 2014-09 D 2016-09
"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.