Ganb8te, I appreciate the feedback. I will check out those videos tomorrow. I am all for anything that I can do to change our interaction pattern.
gogofo, thank you for helping me see the positive in his interactions. A few months ago I was really struggling to trust what he told me, but I'm finding that as time goes on, his words have power again. He must have found a way to show me that he means it without me realizing it.
We ended up have a pleasant email exchange and a brief phone call tonight. The phone call was about a logistical issue but he asked how I was doing and I said much better (not a lie, but not the whole truth, either!). He said that he is "casting a vision" for us and he thinks we're doing it.
We'll see where this goes. I think if I want this to get better I'm going to have to do some more work on myself.
