So a recap. It seems like we may have turned the corner as far as discussions about the kids and the overall sitch (not necessarily the marriage)
I've gotten angry at counseling when W seems to ignore the impact the sitch is having on the kids. I finally detached because of this anger. I then told W that she has the choice to either communicate better about the kids or keep it the way it has been (1 line email once a week, 30 min. of mediation.) I planned this into our session as it didn't seem that anything else was working.
After I was stern on that, she tried to cancel MC, but the C talked her out of it. He suggest she reach out and see how I'm 'feeling' about sitch. Just recently, she opened up and asked about how I was about what has happened, expressed that she understands why I'm upset and admitted she's lied to me for a 'long' time.
Much easier conversation good interaction with less hesitation and anger/isolation from both me and W. I can see that we are both learning how to communicate given the current situation. No real signs of any turn in her decision, but it appears that W may be starting to get out of her fog. She's acting more 'normal' and started to voice some of her feelings also.
No real status about OM since a little after Xmas. W actually seemed embarrassed when S5 snuck in a blanket to counseling with the favorite football team of OM. W seems to be a fan now, even though she's always hated football. I seem to care less about what's going on with that, but realize my hands are tied until its actually over.
M:36 W:37 T: 15 M:11 S6 D5 BD: 8/10/14 IDLY: 8/12/14 S: 8/13/14 (she left, I stayed w/ kids) D Mentioned: 10/15/14 Confronted about OM: 10/15/14 EA: ~4/13 PA: ~10/13 She filed: 8/15 (not final)
