So we had a little talk on Sunday. I told her how I was feeling and what I wanted out of our relationship. I did manage to get her to open up some about what she was feeling. I think you are right about the mid life crisis. I see a ton of signs. She told me about alot of the things I have done during our marriage that hurt her. I have started realizing this for myself over the past few months. I don't know if you have seen the movie Fireproof, but that guy in that movie reminded me of myself. I watched alot of porn, I have been very controlling and selfish. I have not been as loving as I should have been and I definately did not make my wife feel special. It is trully a miracle she has stayed with me this long. I believe God is giving me my wake up call. I have started .... I can see a difference already in my self. Sunday evening my wife actually started talking about taking the kids to eat once a month and where we should go. She texted me good night for the first time in a long time. And she actually said I Love You which she has not done in a really long time. Right now I am just going to start working on myself and try to be the husband I should have been. I am going to work hard to be the kind of man I want to be.

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