I asked him something like, "Why did you send me those texts last night? You seemed to be much more positive and now 15 minutes into a conversation you're telling me you're done?"
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He said, "Let's get together on Thursday and have fun. If you still feel unsettled about tonight, we can talk about it at another time. But I think we need to eliminate non-positive interactions right now."
That first bit from you? That's Jackal speak - he's likely to respond defensively rather than with compassion i.e. it fuels conflict. Look into the book by Rosenburg and videos (which use Giraffe and Jackal puppets to explain the ideas). I think you developing some NVC skills could go a long way to eliminating non-positive interactions.
It's great that he's suggesting to go do something fun. He's communicated a need and made a clear request for what to do about it.
Elsa - have a read around these boards. You have a LONG way to go before you're at rock bottom. I appreciate that you feel that way but things could be far far worse. Heck - you have plans to meet up and do something fun. You're not meeting up with a lawyer to draft papers.
H 37 Me 36 Together 15 years Married 5 years No kids BD Apr 2014 H moved out 2 Jun 2014
