Hi 25yrs Thanks for clarifying. Sorry if I misunderstood. I didn't think either of you were wrong. I thought you both had some valid points. I have learned a lot from what you have posted on my and others threads.

I agree with what you are saying. It is easy to become obsessed with the "whys"

I think my ex has issues that are most definenately beyond the marriage.

I allowed myself to get sucked back in a few months ago and it set me back. I'm moving forward now without the hope of reconciliation. My ex hasn't changed and I would not be happy being back were we were.

Thanks again for all of you much appreciated comments and insights. I hope you will stick by me as I move forward.

Me 52 H 44
T9 M 5
BD 12/11 H
split 8/12
OW moved in 12/12
OW gone for good 6/14
We get closer again 9/14
SD 13 Me 4 Grown





Accept what is...let go of what was and have faith in what will be.