Hi RD, sorry you're not having the best evening....generally, I think you're doing so well, and we all have our low moments.

It's a tough decision about the house, and presumably a big decision for your family if you planned to move to another area. I'm conscious it's still quite early days since your S - and your comments about future scenarios re: OM are looking a ways into the future, which may not be a useful place for your mind to go right now. This may not be the time to be making big decisions about moving.

If it helps, I have been thinking in terms of - right, what's my six month plan? Rent a flat? That's me covered for now. Probably in April, I'll need to start thinking about a new six month plan. For me, the uncertainty and financial insecurity aren't ideal with H using both our marital home and business flat (neither are in locations I want to be right now.)

Edz gave me some useful advice when I was thinking about filing for D - get it out of the box, turn it over, have a good look at it. Maybe put it back in the box, see how you feel etc. At some point, you'll be ready to take it out of the box and say, right it's time.

Hope this helps! Toots x

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus