Interesting point on the porn/romance novels, Cadet, so are you saying that's the case in every situation? Why do you think that happens? Just because in order to walk away, they need a fantasy of something 'better' to be pulled towards?
Well if you look deeper into infidelity, I think it can be tied to some sort of depression. There are different types of depression, overt(obvious) and covert(hidden). And different reactions to each kind. My wife was overtly depressed, and I was not inside her head but I am pretty sure she has some sort of fantasy going on in there to make her do the things that she did.
MWD talks about cheese less tunnels and how they must go down every single one looking for one that will bring them the prize.
All I can say is sometimes it takes a long time to search all those tunnels. Our best bet is to focus on ourselves and keep moving forward.
It took me quite a long time to understand that just because I could not see any infidelity that it was not still occurring.
Most cases that we see on these boards it is much more obvious that their is an affair.
