Ok thank you guys, this such a bad situation and to still love and want my W is painful. Especially knowing I have a very long road Ahead.
So this morning I saw her coming through the gate and she didn't look happy at all, actually really pissed. I know I have done or said anything to her besides that little flirt email yesterday. And then I get a cordial email this morning about me going to see my family for the funeral and how she still wants to book it for me cause she uses paypal.
I accepted this and thanked her for the help during this rough time. She then responded with thanking me for setting aside time today for her to come back to the house and pack. Baby steps and at least communication happened.
I just wonder if I should talk with her while she is there about the open thing M thing. Maybe ask a few ice breakers and if she lies state those feeling and boundaries. I know I am leave for about a week and so is she. Would it be good timing to make her think. Or just let her go on trip and when we are back address it the next time she lies to me.
Go on a vacation and don't talk to her for a week. During this time it's great for her to lose her emotional support from you and depend upon the OM for it. Also it is best that she pay her own bills or let the OM do it.
Not talking to her will be good for your emotional state as you focus on the things you need to be doing.
