Wow...thanks for shring Wonka! This MLC stuff Is as clear as mud. Lol
Now what do you thing...about the difference between a LBS and MLC. 25yrs thinks it's sll an excuse and I can understand why she feels that way. Your thoughts?.
I do NOT think "it's all an excuse". I said I worry that there are some who mistakenly focus on it and don't recognize that they must work on themselves no matter what.
There are some who believe that IF it's MLC, then they can just sit and wait and hope. That somehow it means their spouse is more likely to return...that they have no work to do...and they love to mock the "Crazy MLCer", rather than working on their lives...
I believe that The LBS course of action,
to GAL, do 180s and become a spouse only a fool would leave,
is the same, regardless of whether it's an MLC or a WAS.
THAT^^ was the point I was trying to make.
I know I spent way too much time focussed on what my H was thinking and dong and planning and endlessly asking "WHY??" (A question with no "good" answer).
I worry that too many lbs'ers focus on the WAS rather than on creating a more fulfilling life for themselves and their kids.
But SOME spouses who leave, are not like others. SOME have inner issues that are not very related to the marriage and IF they work whatever the heck that is,
they MAY be more likely to have an awakening of their own, but I can't say that this would not occur, anyway.
IN some ways, I wonder what difference it makes.
But Wonka has another theory and makes good points. I'm not comfortable being put in a position where one of us has to be made wrong on such a nebulous matter.
Hope this helps in some small way.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
