WRT to emergency contacts, I'll tell you my plan -- I have a local friend who I trust deeply but who I don't want to give the primary responsibility for medical decisions. I'm going to list her as my immediate emergency contact so I have someone on the spot if I need help, and I'm going to give her the contact information for my brother & sister-in-law. They live several states away but I trust them to make important decisions for me if I'm incapacitated. (it happens that my friend is an estate attorney who will draw up my will post-divorce, so she'll also have a fiduciary responsibility for me... something to consider if you don't have anyone local that you trust to be an emergency intermediary).
I'm also specifically going to give my brother medical power of attorney since I know my parents have a very different set of values if I'm permanently incapacitated.
Don't eat the elephant. There are solutions for every worry, I'm finding.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
