The debt thing is why I'm working on legal seperation papers now. As Ur explained quite eloquently to you. I not so elequently barked at Mozza (sorry Mozza!) the same thing. I let my H take over the finances while I finished my last grueling semester of grad school. In the time I took it over, he racked up multiple Bills, couldn't pay them (we didn't have enough money), insisted that I didn't need to her a full time job, opened up a post office box to have the bills diverted so I wouldn't find out, and didn't pay our mortgage one month. He then got several pay day loans to the tune of 30% over 5 years!!!!! And still didn't tell me. I sound out when I got notification that my credit score tanked 40 points one afternoon. And the next day, mid shower? In the winter? Has the electric company turn the power off at the base. I spent a year cleaning up that mess with him and he still owes money. Because my state is no fault, any bills he's racking up right now (and I know he is, he's not picking up his mail.) can be on me. His truck is on it's last leg. Any purchase? Could fall to me. And if we can't come to an agreement over what is what, then the court will decide. I will be be infuriated if I have to pay for a debt that was taken out behind my back. I have no idea what my H is doing with money. You have no idea what yours is doing. Ss, protect yourself and your child. Do not assume your h will do the right thing. My dad made it a pony to divorce my mom and gleefully left her penniless from the divorce. Refused to pay child support as well.
Circle the wagons. You may need it, you may not. But you have to protect your family unit.
M:32,H 32 T:10, M5 BD/H Move Out: 9/2014 - extreme anger H Mental Illness Diagnosis: 4/15 Served D Papers: 10/15 Divorced: 11/15
