Card, I have had to come to grips that there may be no regret or sorrow for the actions of my W regarding the A. Maybe it will come, maybe after years from a rebuilt marriage. I'm not counting on it, nor can I let that expectation of an apology or regret divert me away from DB.
All I know is that trying to invoke guilt from her only brings about anger for both of us.
Originally Posted By: Card29
Having my first bumpy few days since my light switch moment about a month ago. I realize I do ideally want our M to work, but that brings on two sources of pain: She is nowhere close to ready to rebuilding our M even if she wants to (and I have no clue if she does), and the pain of her A is returning. The fact that she is nastily trying to deflect her role in it (even without me being hostile or telling anyone about it) speaks volumes, too.
Also, D2 is starting to get upset that I don't come to mommy's house with her.
