Strong EA after 2yrs M - trying to detach. #3

[Complex]

Ok back to my thread:

HELP HELP AND HELP AGAIN..

Here's what happened:
After I more or less accidentally found this article on my wife's laptop "6 signs a man is ready to commit"...plus multiple sites open for volunteering in Africa, I started to have the feeling that OM isn't really playing along. It was just a gut feeling, no further snooping, no evidence..and I didn't even give it a lot of thought.

Tonight W leaves, in casual outfit, tells me she's going to a restaurant close to work bc her work friend got promoted. And they just grab dinner all together real quick. I look sort of disbelieving unfortunately and she's "ok listen, he's not there tonight, I swear, and by the way, we aren't even talking anymore!" She sounded very honest, firm and kind of angry at the same time.

My feeling is supported by her grumpiness the last couple days. She seemed very displeased..but not bc of me bc we hardly talked.
Right before she told me her grandma was on the phone with tragic news from a (not very close) family member, their 7 yr old got badly injured, very horrible. And grandma wanted to invite me for dinner tomorrow. I'm just like "well I don't know what to say, it's your family". W response: of course you are invited...

????????

I had this flash of hope. But I don't WANT to hope just to get crushed again. I need to get my emotions together...and maybe she's lying anyway. Or he just went dark on her to test her.
It seems like I'm the backup plan now or so. I don't know.
Phew that threw me off my game. I have to focus and continue the work!
I have a DB coaching session tomorrow. Perfect timing.

Amy thoughts on this?????? Thanks!!!!!