The common signs of an affair

[Mozza]

Here are the signs that I picked in retrospect after I wised up.

- Going out for walks or drinks more often than ever. Always an excuse, like colleagues organizing something, going with a friend.
- Increased texting. Like, a lot more.
- Absent-minded. Just seem to have a lots to think about.
- Starts talking about someone new, seems enthusiastic, then stops mentioning that person ever.
- Gets defensive and curt when asked about having an affair, makes it unpleasant to broach the topic.
- Changes in friends, especially towards those that might be supportive of an A, like single or divorced friends. Stays away from married and stable friends.
- Acts like a junkie as far as OP is concerned. It becomes very important to participate to X, to be available at a given time, hides to text NOW, etc. If you get in the way, even unknowingly, they get nasty.
- Less patience for the R. More fights. Irritated by our presence, existence.

In my case, I believe my W was conflicted and made some minor attempts at connecting with me, mostly to convince herself that I was a lost cause.

I haven't read the signs in your sitch, so I don't even know if they match.