- I told her in one of the emails that i will always love her and she can't stop me from showing her that love and proving it through my actions. Probably the wrong thing to do but I couldn't help it at the time. She didn't reply anyway so i guess it doesn't matter. I know i'm supposed to detach and gal, i know that. but when she's here and i feel her energy it's just so hard. Newsflash....None of us found any of this easy. We all found it very HARD. Yes, as in the hardest thing any of us have ever done.
However in the long run, divorce is a lot harder. Since, chances are that doing more of the same has gotten you to this point where divorce is likely, you will need to DO different things.
We all had to do NEW SCARY things. Forgiving, and or getting way out of our comfort zones, letting go of the past, letting go of what we cannot control (huge!), meeting new people, learning patience, having to move, share our children with 3rd parties, or changing jobs, dating, learning to be alone, etc.
We ALL had a hard time. You cannot let that keep you paralyzed and assume that if something is hard, it must not be the right course of action. In fact I think it's the opposite.
I think the dilemmas we face many times, like choosing between Option A or Option B, is that we know down deep the right choice is usually the harder one.
(B/c if the easier choice were really the "right" one, we'd have seen it and done it already)>
So when in doubt, know that the correct choice is usually the "harder" one. You just do it anyhow, even when it's hard.
When you think about it, this is just part of being an adult.
Like she said the other day "this would be so much easier if you were angry"...it would be but neither of us are those kind of people. It kills me that what i did forced her to this point.
So what are you going to DO different?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
