I like the idea of saying that i need time to get my thoughts in order. I can't imagine inviting someone else to the meeting though. That just seems like a big ask of someone and man, I'd hate to be that person.
Going only to listen and information gather seems like what I need to do. I am going to have to practice my body language and facial expressions. I do not have a good poker face.
I still want to wait until I speak to a lawyer though. Being a SAHM for a majority of our marriage makes me nervous as far as how I'll be able to support myself given that I can't find a job despite my efforts.
Being able to say "I need to give things some thought" will be a very big thing for me. To allow myself to take the time to think WELL about something instead of feeling like I have to have an answer or response for him right then and there seems wonderful. Great idea, Maybell.
Gosh, thank you.
So, little known fact about Ss. I love birds. I have pictures of birds or little bird figures in every room. Some metal and modern, some ceramic and delicate. I even have a hand-drawn picture of an antique camera (another love of mine) with a bird pirched on it painted on an antique page from a dictionary (I also love words). Three of my favorite things in one piece of art. Anyway, strangely (or awesomely, you decide) while I was vacuuming and looking at my birds, a song popped into my head.
"... every little thing is gonna be alright. Don't worry, about a thing.... three little birds"
amazing.
Why do I get the feeling many of you were waiting for me to come to the realization that this might be the way to go in my sitch.
