Just caught up on your sitch ... Ugh. I feel for you, but I also sense your spin cycle is going at an alarming rate, understandably so. I am reminded of a visit I made overseas ... The Chinese Dragon .. you will notice they either have a ball, or they are chasing it. The ball represents their Chi ... you need to realize you are in control of this. Not your H, you have the power here. There is nothing you need to decide right this second, digest what has happened ... I agree with most of the suggestions, go out and get some homework done with the lawyers, its free ... take advantage of it ... try to remove the emotions for just a bit to get yourself detached and grounded .. I know its hard .. when every fiber in you wants to scream. But you are the rock your D is relying on. Be the Dragon that has control of the ball ... do not chase it. We have your back ... we get it ... you will get through this.
