I fully understand your wish to respect your wife's privacy. There's a lot I've posted since BD I probably shouldn't have done. Its another sign of your character.
Remember not to lump to many things together as one decision, or make things seem more like a decision when they aren't. A decision to dip into the dating pool is not the immediate consequence if giving up on the marriage, just as deciding that focusing on building the best possible coparenting relationship is not the same as giving up on the marriage.
Whatever it is has obviously shaken you a bit especially given the way your W has been recently so I would say toots is right and you should give yourself some time.
But to my mind whatever you decide I think you should keep doing what you were doing because it read like it was working for you.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
