Strong EA after 2yrs M - trying to detach. #3

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Thank you Thank you Bulldog!

The Christian approach on M in my opinion is THE only one that TRULY promotes marriage! Period.

I understand you Mozza, the guilt thing to S first to justify an A, P or E. The outcome stays the exact same. The disrespectful shattering of a soul that we once loved. If we had ANY respect for ourselves, the other person (it doesn't even have the be the spouse only!!!! It's the way we should treat each other!!!) and to God, we can NOT commit adultery/infidelity.
We have to sort out our lives first, make a decision, follow through, even if it means divorce and THEN we can do whatever.
W always told me M is just on paper. If that's a mutual decision OK, then it is, but if one disagrees it is not...and ALL that's left the person deserves that WAS is leaving is something we all deserve: RESPECT. And committing adultery or starting any kind of relationship before the divorce is final is disrespectful against every single person involved.

People have different opinions on what marriage means. And we failed to find a person that understands it, some of us here didn't either until it was too late, that's why we are all leaving this place wiser hopefully!!!

Marriage is just reflecting the society we are living in. And this mutual respect people should have got each other doesn't even need religion. But people are people...and not of lot of people respect themselves, others or any form of God. They act by their instincts and emotions like animals.

Sorry if I sound extreme, but I'm angry today for realizing I'm in such a limbo.
W doesn't know how it's gonna play out, I don't, W family doesn't even know yet, we don't even talk about it. im stuck in the limbo, but I'm doing my thing, staying busy and feel very detached. But how will this stupid limbo last.......