I second Calibiri's advice. See a lawyer first.

If you then meet with your H and you all want to move forward with D - you can simply refer him to your L, particularly if you're afraid of him bullying you.

If you can't get anyone to give you a recommendation, you can interview some near you.

I suspect that you will feel much better after you speak to one.


2 Ds: 7 and 4
BD and Sep: 7/14
Divorce Final 2/16