Have you seen a lawyer? If not, go see one before agreeing to see one. Take the documentation with you to said lawyer.

After seeing the lawyer, you can make the decision to talk to your H or not.

I would advise you not to talk to him until you've talked to a L.

Hell, after your meeting with the L, you may not want to talk to him.

Haven't you mentioned that he always wants things on his terms? Make the meeting/talk if you have it -- on your terms. Whatever those may be for you.

I understand completely -- I just got a text from my H to talk to me in person tonight. I feel like I'm going to vomit.

M:32,H 32
T:10, M5
BD/H Move Out: 9/2014 - extreme anger
H Mental Illness Diagnosis: 4/15
Served D Papers: 10/15
Divorced: 11/15