I forgot to mention that I have filed a investigation against the other military man. For adultery and un-becoming of a non-commissioned officer. So she is not happy about that! Was this a bad move. Soon the no contact order will be in force.
I think this is a good move, and I did the same thing pretty much. My wife's OM was in the police academy, studying to become a police officer. I found out that as part of the "public review" process, I could write a letter and have it put in his file and considered as part of his overall fitness, and "moral turpitude" was one of the disqualifying criteria. Unfortunately, they still named him to the police force, but I felt better that I had done the right thing.
