Help - Almost Walk away wife who seems stuck

[Ontheup]

Hey Pundit. I emapathise with your situation. Last July after drifting further aprt for about 2 years I had another one of my flare ups to which my wife responded "i cant do this anymore" WOW! i didnt see that one coming. I did everyting worng, begged pleaded promised to change blah blah. So we carried on. And i did change. I became th model husband basically, not that i wasnt genearlly good before but now you'd e mad to leave me. So we carried on for months and things didnt really improve. i was still getting blamed for all the wrong in our marriage. There were glimpses of my old wife but i could see she was getting further away and nothing i did could stop it. Then D_day. just over a week ago. I did suspect for a very long time but i decided to find out for sure. She has been PA with her business partner for 6months +
So you see, my efforts were futile. She had already gone. She loves me, love our family but she is in the fog getting emotionally fed somewhere else and to her that means happiness and is more important than anything else.
Now im not saying your wife is having and affair but what you see on these boards is that they all do the same things. Its like they all read the same script. For a woman it not about the sex or physical closeness, its about the emotional conection she makes. Over time that drifts with your partner as life takes over. At some point they just switch off.
You need to try and work on you. You can only control you. do stuff with you kids, do your own hobbies, get out with friends.
It is very hard i know especially while under same roof
DBing isnt so much about saving your marriage as it is about saving yourself. If you become a better more confident attractive person you will feel better about yourself. Will that get your wifes attention? maybe. If not you have become a better person so you can continue in life.
Read the posts on here. Some inspirational stuff where people have turned their lives around with or with their spouse.

Keep posting.