Interesting on the victim triangle - my xh is trying to play it with no takers. And he is getting angrier and angrier.
When I suggested solution focus there was an attempt to pull it to Victim/Persecutor which he regards as much more fun. I think the point is that the Victim triangle participant is more interested in the drama and the avoidance of relationship than they are in moving forward with anything, and essentially acting like a grown up.
Once you see the game you realise it is everywhere!
