The common signs of an affair

[Ontheup]

Hey Susana

I knew in my heart for long time but i just chose to ignore the reality. DBing say dont snoop

My wife is having an affair with her business partner. In the end it was almost like she wanted to get found out the clues were that glaringly obvious. Even my dad had asked months ago

We were already in trouble. Sex life dwindling. Other issues in our marriage. everday stresses

The way she would talk on the phone to OM (Business stuff) but it was just her tone

She started working away more and more

6 months ago it was basically end of our marriage. No more Affection on emails texts etc. It just stoppped

She was out socially with work more and more.

Very negative about our marriage and blaming it all on me

Found he was getting divorcded but wife failed to tell me

I then recetnly did a load of snooping and it just confirmed what i had already known for a long time.

Nearly all their emails were business like but there was the odd slip up where it would be too friendly

Nights away in her calendar that didnt tally up

Possesive over her phone to the point of taking it in the shower room with her. She never used to be

His children had accused him of having an affiar with Wife in a IM exchange

I found a birthday card for her this year from him at home hidden. (now been burnt on the fire )

Week before BD she took her rings off. New underwear bought

Confirmation when i got access to her phone in middle of the night. She hadnt even changed her passcode (she has now) Saw messages on there to each other. Fortunatly i didnt see anything too hurtful and there wasnt that many but it was enough for me to wake her up and lose it (stupid now i know) and she just admitted it had been going on for about 6 months. I think maybe longer.

Its up to you. I understand why DBing say dont snoop because to find out is almost unbearable and there is nothing you can do about the affair anyway. It will probably continue until they wake up and smell the coffee. Doing some reading about affair fog
The only thing my discovery has done is to make life difficult for her to sneak around. She has a lots to loose as does OM. its no longer a fantasy land. Its now real and she has to decide what to do with her life.