I agree that they feel they have no choices. My W and I would talk about how we were going to do things and when she did the exact opposite, she would actually say "I can't help that I changed my mind", loudly and in a whiny tone. She can't help that she changed her mind about our M, about going to a lawyer, about waiting to file, you name it. My W really truly believes that she has no choice but to do whatever she "feels" at any given moment. They are the most helpless victims. If not of us then of their "feelings". MLC is about weakness, it's about fear and it's about a lack of control. They really think we "made" them do the awful things that they do. If it wasn't us then they would have to admit it was their own weakness' and they can't face up to those!
