[BrightFuture]

Job, thanks for the advice. I was feeling better on Saturday. And I did go to the party with my GF. I think I was still a bit sick, so the drinks got my head pretty quick. There were some moments that I don’t remember. I managed to stay put together though. A few more people told me they liked me, LOL.

Linda, I’m so happy to see you posting to me, my friend! I think I’m following your footsteps. It took you a long time to finally detach and let your xh go. It is taking me this long too, but I can feel that I’m getting there! Thanks for the encouraging words. I will look you up on FB. I think I will need to create a separate account to connect with all the people here. I don’t think I can use my real name (even though I’m only using my first name for my account and made up last name.)

You are so right, H is still searching for that “something”. I’m not even sure what it might be at this point. He wants to live at the vacation home, but he cannot… Still has to go back to work, and pretty soon. He wants to have another R, but still ok with having joint accounts and business, and yes, filling taxes jointly again this year… Go figure… Does he just want a casual GF who would not care about this chit? If he is considering a serious R, he will have to get completely untangled from me. I just cannot see a serious R working out while still having common “business” with the W who he didn’t even divorced yet.

Some updates. Today was H’s b-day. I almost forgot about it, LOL. It popped up in my mind in the morning, then I got to the office and forgot about it again. I kept reminding myself during the day that I would need to call him at some point before I forget again. Isn’t it weird? I sent him a b-day card with my son, and I thought that this would be good enough. But, then I decided to call anyway. So, I called in the afternoon. He picked up the phone. The connection was not that good. I wished him a happy b-day and to have a great day and have fun. He thanked me. I’m not sure if he was somewhere he could not talk, or he just woke up from a nap. He sounded a bit confused. He asked about my son and his GF, if they got home safe. I told him that they were fine and that they had a lot of fun at the vacation home. He was trying to tell me that he advised them to go to a different border crossing to avoid a long wait. To which I said that they seemed to get home in a decent time and this is all I know.

Last year when I called him on his b-day he was more talkative, even told me that he was going to a place with some friends. This year, he either seemed surprised that I called, or he was not prepared, or he was not comfortable talking, or just didn’t have much to say. IDK. I made a call and went back to work. I didn’t sweat it at all.

I called my son’s GF yesterday to make sure that they arrived home safely. She told me some info about the weekend. She said that they were with the group of people my H is friends with. This is a nice group, so called snow birds, not the other drunks H hangs out with over there. So, I guess my son and GF were with H at the races and probably in other places too. Which is a good news.

At the same time, I spoke with my son today (he called about some other matter), I asked him about the weekend. He was not very open about that, like he didn’t want to talk about the details. I don’t know what it’s all about. Maybe he doesn’t want to hurt me. So, I need to get some info from his GF.

Forgot to mention that when I got some stuff that H asked me to send for our mutual friends, I also bought some cottage cheese for H and sent it with my son. I know he used to buy it when he was in town and took it over to the vacation home. He cannot buy it there. I just felt that I wanted to do something nice for H. After all, he brought me some special source from another state last year, and I didn’t ask for it, he just did it. So, I kind of returned the gesture. I don’t expect anything from him by the way. It was just something I wanted to do. Oh, and I sent him a very nice b-day card.

Maybe this is why he sounded so confused on the phone, haha. I don’t care. I did what I wanted to do. The rest it his problem…