Thanks, I may have thought it may be good for him to talk to her in the beginning right after BD, but by now I know I have no expectations of him talking to my W.
I guess, I was just concerned about my W's feelings. It seems like she's in such an uncomfortable place with how she's acting. OM and the A is a huge secret still and the few people that do know; she's pretty much shut them out from helping her get through this (parents, sister, BFF.)
She's still going to Church with the kids, so I was fearful that it would make her stop going.
Right after she left and before anyone knew about OM, she made a HUGE deal out of people knowing that she left the house and I got about 2 months of spew saying that 'I' was spreading rumors that she left and I had no idea why. (well, she did leave....and I had no idea why) She kept telling me it was a private matter between her and I and she didn't want it to affect her career.
Then after I (and mostly everyone else that's close to us) figured out about OM, I did realize that she had a right to be concerned. He is a co-worker and she was his 'mentor' when he first started. She wasn't in a supervisory role, but did have direct seniority over what he did on a daily basis.
Last edited by MCS; 01/27/1503:38 AM.
M:36 W:37 T: 15 M:11 S6 D5 BD: 8/10/14 IDLY: 8/12/14 S: 8/13/14 (she left, I stayed w/ kids) D Mentioned: 10/15/14 Confronted about OM: 10/15/14 EA: ~4/13 PA: ~10/13 She filed: 8/15 (not final)
