Life 2.0 Pt 4

[Train]

I guess it's time I stop making him a major factor in mine.

Yes. Again, I think you will be able to address these things - your questions and anger and pain - with her eventually. But first, you have some deposits of your own to make in her Love Bank. I know it doesn't feel fair because SHE is the one who had the A. (EA? PA? Doesn't matter one way or the other. One's just as hurtful as the other; in fact, for a woman, an EA is actually HARDER to break than a PA because we are emotional people.) But those of us who have been cheated on did our own disservice to our Ms; as you know, we have as much to prove as the person who cheated. You're here, and so you KNOW that. And you're working on it. Good on you.

Remember: flowers. And establish "A-free" date nights with W. See if she agrees to one of those - say - every two weeks, okay? That's a good starting point. And use those two nights a month to really re-connect and have some fun. No anger. No spewing. No reminders of the sh!t times. Just fun. It doesn't have to cost money. Get creative. And if YOU plan the date? Even BETTER!