SRD, what are you actually actively doing to detach and GAL? It all sounds like you need a change of heart still. I mean I'm still not over it and circling around with my feelings, but deep down you need to know what the 'right' thing to do is. I was an atheist for most of my life, but I actually started praying. I don't know if it's God who is answering or if it's just a great form of meditation...but I DO get answers. And I started to believe that if you let God/Jesus in you and your marriage, you will know what's the right thing to do eventually. It's called non selfish love. I'm still not there myself but the thoughts are helping me a lot to deal with the situation and to find more peace with myself. Don't go with your bad rnotions, don't let them control you!
And by the way. Your W ISN'T your W anynore. What's in her head right now is real. It might change but it is what it is in this moment. But you can speak for YOURSELF! Be strong and confident towards your W, but be it to yourself first. Everything starts with yourself!
Last edited by Complex; 01/27/1502:04 AM.
Me 32 (German) Wife 28 T 3yrs M 2yrs Moved to US for W No kids BD 6/2014 In house separation Confirmed EA 1/2015 (ongoing since BD) OM not ready Real D talk started 1/27/15
