Strong EA after 2yrs M - trying to detach. #3

[Complex]

Georgia: of course it was the first session so I don't know but she was just a good listener, not more. She actually was a marriage counselor. She also told me only 1 therapy is good, not 2 at the same time...because I told her of DBing. She never heard of it. And I don't know, but if you work in this business for 19 years, you maybe should have? She mentioned the word "healing" a lot. Not encouraging me, W or M or anything. Of course we all want to hear there is hope and in the beginning that might not be the right approach so we can detach better.
The DB coach showed more empathy and was more knowledgeable. I liked her better for sure. But that's 6 times the price of a session with my 20$ co pay..

W's computer seemed to be in sleeping mode and popped back on bc of mouse movement this morning on the couch, and I saw she read an article "6 signs if a man is ready to commit". I didn't snoop any further and put the laptop away instantly but seriously? Dont think she left it intentionally. She wants OM to 'commit' to her?? I can tell you ONE sign that he's ready: he will tell you!
Wonder if she has ANY idea that a divorce actually takes 6 months to complete. Plus 2 months citizenship on top and we are at 8. And that's a long time she will have to deal with me. I need to go to a lawyer soon anyway. LS might be a financial very smart option for us. I wonder when she starts to have the balls to talk to me about everything. And tell her family...
I read an article recently how incredibly unhealthy it actually is if someone is dating during the D process. Usually makes things way more intense and worse, on all sides. Anyone having experience with this?

What does it actually usually means when W is going dark on you and acts more in the grumpy side? Guilt? That things with OM are going either well or bad?

I admit my mind is still circling and circling, but I feel much more detached. I don't even know if I want this person anymore. I love her tho... But right now I feel like I'm just sitting in the audience watching.

SRD:
Therapy goal: Healing, reaching my personal goals, get over my depression, get some more psychological insight on myself and the situation, fresh ideas in general, open up.
I want the therapy to be for ME. Of course I hold the hope that this eventually will lead to reconciliation one day..and if not, that I'm better off.

I wonder if a real Christian counselor would be better, or at least one with real Christian core values.

Ps: anyone an advice on how to 'solve' the bedroom question properly?