The laws are different here in NC. We are required to go a 12-month S period before a D can go through; to that end, we're a state that isn't as "D-friendly" as other states.
But I was where you are, with my back against a wall, financially, and I *had* to pursue a legal S because my H had pulled the financial-carpet out from under us before ... so I knew he had the capability of doing it again. And he DID.
Protect yourself and your children, financially. Sooner rather than later. And what will be will be. As Van said, you can DB even while S.
Hugs, Pink. You really have your sh!t together. Kudos to you, sweetie.
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014
